a Meaningful Life with Simon Jacobson
Radio Show Transcript - December 12, 1999
Rabbi Simon Jacobson: Good evening. We’ll be doing an abbreviated
show till approximately 6:35 so Mike Feder won’t be with
show will be about dreams. It’s a topic that I always hear
people talking about wherever I travel, in my classes, and
with the people I meet. People dream, and as usually is the
case, anything that is exotic —the unknown, the mysterious,
the subconscious— always intrigues us.
I am reminded of the story of a fellow who came to a rabbi,
a great mystic, who clearly had the power to interpret dreams,
and he tried to elicit from him some type of interpretation
of his unique dreams. The Rebbe said to him, “Listen, it’s
hard enough for us to figure out what to do while we are awake!
Let us deal with our dreams once we’ve figured out how to
live our wakeful hours...”
Rabbi didn’t want to feed into the sensationalism that is
often associated with anything unknown. Dreams definitely
do play an important role, not just in our lives but in Torah
thought in general, particularly in the mystical dimension.
You find the classic stories of dream interpretation in the
Bible: Joseph is particularly known for the dream interpretation
of his own dreams and then his interpretation of the dreams
of the Egyptian ministers and then of Pharaoh’s. So clearly
there’s much to be said about dreams from a Torah perspective,
and I hope to be able to cover as much as possible in the
short time we have tonight.
don’t promise any dream interpretations, but I do hope that
I can shed some light on the topic based on Talmudic sources,
and on mystical sources, the Zohar… but let me, at the outset,
set this in motion:
is a dream? We all dream, and we have no recollection of most
of our dreams. Those that we do remember are a bundle of confusion:
there are things that we do understand and sometimes it’s
associated with memories or experiences of that day and our
lives; sometimes it’s completely random, almost ludicrous.
the Talmud states that there are two contradictory elements
in any dream. Number one is that there is no dream without
nonsense. Ein cholom
bli devarim betalim is the Hebrew expression. On the other
hand it says that a dream is often a 60th of a
prophecy: a form of prophecy. The real problem is this: that
since it is all bundled into one snowball, it’s very difficult
to distinguish between the two—which part is nonsense and
which part is meaningful. So that is why we find it difficult
to relate to dreams, because in essence it’s really a glimpse
into the subconscious, and the subconscious mind is not just
another dimension that is yet to be discovered, the subconscious
mind actually works differently from our conscious mind. Our
conscious minds function in a linear fashion—cause and effect:
things make sense at least in the logical world that we have
created in our experiences. The subconscious mind is a completely
different type of experience where contradictions are not
necessarily contradictions. Paradoxes can be the norm, because
realities there don’t take on the same defined shape and form
as they do in our conscious world.
use an example from quantum mechanics—those of you who are
physicists listening in—it’s become pretty popular in the
mainstream to know that on the quantum level of subatomic
particles and microscopic world of existence, there’s the
concept that though it’s been seen as bizarre and still remains
bizarre (no one can comprehend it but it’s been proven), there’s
a state of being which can’t even be defined as a state, it’s
seen as a state of probability, a state of uncertainty, that
only becomes defined once it is experienced by
an observer or once it reaches the macroscopic level.
So there is a state where things are, I won’t call it an amorphous
state, but it definitely is one in which things are in a state
of probability, not clearly defined and don’t work by the
same rules as a conscious world does.
dream is a glimpse into that world. And that is why dreams
can be very contradictory, very paradoxical, and within them
can definitely lie images and factors that reveal and illuminate
parts of our subconscious. However, since we are so comfortable
living in a conscious world, the dream remains a distant and
of us find that we wake up in the morning and our dreams were
so vivid, yet we can’t even remember what they were. A little
time passes and we can’t recollect them at all. But if we
write it down or tell it to someone, we can retain it in our
the reason for that? Since a dream exists in that state of
probability, a glimpse into a different world, so to speak,
once you’ve woken, it’s not necessarily possible for you to
really articulate it or remember it unless you actually write
it down or ground it or concretize it in your personal experience.
why you’ll find it said in the Talmud that with dream interpretation—which
you find in the Bible and in other places—often the interpretation
itself can define the dream one way or another.
I mean by that is that a dream can usually be interpreted
in two different ways: it can be interpreted in a positive
way, or often it can be interpreted in a negative way. And
the interpreter himself or herself can actually have an effect
on how that dream plays out in a person’s life.
this is just a brief synopsis of what dreams are about. What
I really want to address, of course, is their relevance to
our lives and their relevance to our experiences. Can we learn
something from these dreams, can we become better people,
can they help us grow, can they help us solve dilemmas, can
they help us perhaps look into our own inner psyches in a
way that can make our lives more sensible to be able to deal
with and take on the challenges of our lives?
to answer the next question—What relevance does it have to
our lives?—why would we dream and why would G-d allow a human
being to have a glimpse into the subconscious, the fact is,
the subconscious is a very mysterious world, and frankly,
sensationally speaking, even though we like to know what’s
going on there, I would submit that most of us wouldn’t like
to necessarily see our subconscious in full blast, in its
full glory, because it is a completely different type of reality
than our own. In the different literature of Jewish mysticism,
you’ll find people who have “traveled into the garden,” so
to speak, people who’ve gone into the world of the subconscious,
entered into a deeper or more profound dimension of existence,
and did not always came out unscathed.
can get hurt when they enter that place; hurt because sometimes
when you see things too real that are not masked and are not
couched and are not packaged, one has to really be prepare
to be able to contain and process it. That is why, in a conventional
approach, if you went over to a mystic, someone who really
can interpret a dream, he usually won’t interpret it for you
because the attitude will be, as the statement goes, “Those
who say, don’t know; and those who know, usually don’t say.”
if you have someone who’s interpreting your dreams, especially
if that person is charging you for it, you can assume that
if it comes too easily for them to interpret your dream, and
they’re not too reluctant, there may be ulterior motives involoved.
there is an authentic form of dream interpretation, and it’s
important to know that. For instance, in the Bible itself
(in the book of Genesis) when it discusses dream interpretation,
you find that Joseph, when he was asked by the two ministers
when he was in prison with him to interpret their dreams,
the first thing Joseph says is, “G-d is the one who interprets
dreams.” And then he continues and states, “So tell me what
qualifies it very clearly to say that G-d interprets dreams.
Then, when Pharaoh tells him two dreams that he had, Joseph
again repeats those words in a somewhat different language,
but with the same idea and concept that it is G-d who is the
understander of dreams, and the one who causes a person to
acknowledgment tells it all. Joseph simply saw himself as
a channel. The mere fact that a human being can live in this
conscious world and function, without necessarily understanding
the significance of his or her dreams, means that G-d does
not necessarily want you to have that deeper understanding.
there will be times when a message needs to be told to you:
something that needs to empower you, something to warn you,
something to help you, and then there may be a dream that
will reoccur—as it happened in those Biblical stories—to make
you aware of it and to spark your interest, and in that situation
there may be a message that you need to uncover.
of course, on our own it’s hard to always interpret those
dreams, which is why it’s important to have a refined, spiritually
dedicated human being who can help a person understand them.
But that’s only in the case where it is absolutely necessary
for our lives.
other words, if we have dreams and we don’t understand their
meaning, that in itself is a message, that perhaps you don’t
need to understand them to be able to function. The only time
a dream can be relevant to us is when it actually helps us
to become a more responsible human being. If it’s some excuse
or some type of escapism from reality (I know some people
who are experts on what’s going on in their dreams, but have
real difficulty functioning when they’re awake) then there’s
a problem with that.
the dream is meant to enhance us and make us more responsible,
more developed, more self-actualized human beings. And in
those cases, a dream can give us some type of glimpse into
a reality that’s beyond our own.
there are dreams (I’ve heard stories of this) where a person
came to someone who was a dream interpreter and he told him
the dream and the interpreter said, “I don’t really have an
interpretation.” The truth is, he did
have one; however, he didn’t feel he wanted to spell it out,
because as I mentioned, a dream can be affected by how you
interpret it. And often, by ignoring it, particularly a dream
that has negative connotations, it can be useful because if
it wasn’t concretized but remains in that state of probability,
that amorphous state, and never materializes.
it’s important to not always take our dreams seriously, as
we would conscious experiences. Sometimes it may be best to
ignore certain dreams. If G-d wants to get a message across
to us through our dreams , He’ll make sure that either we
dream it again, or we’ll have other ways that will remind
us and make us aware. Let's go to Allen on the phone.
Caller: Good evening Rabbi. The question I want to ask is for recurrent
bad dreams, nightmares that happen almost every night. What
do you recommend as a remedy or a solution for this? How does
a person go about trying to remedy this? I read that a small
percentage of all adults have recurrent nightmares every night,
but I haven’t done any research into trying to find a remedy
for myself, but I am plagued with this (laughs).
Jacobson: Well, the fact that you can laugh about it is a good sign.
The question is, do you remember the exact details of the
dream? I’m not asking you to say that on the air…
Caller: Most of the time I do.
Jacobson: And do you find any relevance or relationship with anything
in your experiences during the day or during your life?
Jacobson: Well, that’s important. I would say, that without breaching
any confidentiality on your part, I would say that it’s important,
because another thing that the Talmud says is that a person
dreams about at night what a person thinks about during the
day. Which, of course, is reflective of a deeper or related
dimension to experiences that we have during the day.
other words, a dream shouldn’t be seen as an isolated experience
that has no relationship with the rest of you. It is part
of it, and often it may be an exaggerated part. It may be
trying to emphasize something that is some type of negative
behavior or negative type of environment that you may be in;
for instance, a person may have a very obnoxious boss at work
and that really just wears him down. I can see a person like
that having recurrent dreams about that boss.
different forms and fashions, it just reinforces the experience
of having a negative, irritating environment that one lives
Caller: I don’t think that’s the issue with me.
Jacobson: No, fine. I just gave that as an example. I feel that if
you have recurring nightmares, there are things that you may
need to change, both in your conscious daily experiences and
particularly what you do right before you go to sleep. I was
going to make a suggestion at the end of the show but I might
as well begin now. The suggestion is as follows: most people
go to sleep either with a television on…
Caller: I don’t.
Jacobson: Okay, there we go. Listen, we’re eliminating all the possibilities!
We may be able to solve your issue yet. And I’m trying to
do this without knowing what the dream is.
Caller: Just one more thing before the remedy. The dreams are so bad
that they affect my whole day. When I wake up, it stays with
me the whole day and impairs my functioning. It’s been this
way for about six months now.
Jacobson: Do you want to tell me what the dream is about?
Caller: It has to do with my family, my parents and my siblings. That’s
basically what it has to do with, that’s the main thing.
Jacobson: I suspected as much. So it is reflecting true experiences
in your life, not some concoction or fantasy.
Caller: Well, it’s not reality that I’m dreaming; it’s not true experiences.
It’s nothing that is actually happening. It’s just bad things
that are happening.
Jacobson: But do you have a good, nurturing relationship with your
family? Are the vibes good at home?
Caller: Not the best. No.
Jacobson: Without going further, I’d be happy to communicate with
you one-on-one. You can write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
and be more specific, and then I will try to respond. But
I will say some things here.
Caller: I’ve tried other things. People have told me to say the Shema before I go to sleep, to study Mishnayos, and other things like that which
Jacobson: Has it helped?
Jacobson: Well, you send me an email and I’ll send you some comments,
Jacobson: And I appreciate your call. Many of us go to sleep and the
last thing we do is we either leave the television on or fall
asleep with the Wall St. Journal or some other newspaper on
our nose. It’s critical that the last moment before you go
to sleep should be done in a sacred way. You see, your soul
is returning to that subconscious place, to it's natural shell
and it’s important that the way
you enter that area, that environment, is how it will have
an impact on you.
it’s not guaranteed, as we see with the case with Allen, however
it definitely helps. And there are other things that need
to be looked at, for example, in the case where a person may
be dreaming negative things about their family, then in that
type of situation, what’s important is that they look at what’s
going on in their lives.
they’re in an abusive environment, or even subtly negative
experiences, it may be that their dream is telling them to
wake up and address the issue.
I don’t know how deep it is, and it needs to be addressed
on a case-by-case basis. That’s why it’s difficult to talk
about Allen’s issues because I’m sure they’re unique to him,
but in general a dream should not be ignored if it’s recurring,
for six months, and it’s actually disrupting your life. There
must be something else going on.
maybe it’s a combination of things: of going to sleep in a
purer, more spiritual way, waking up in a purer, more spiritual
way and cleaning up some of your environment throughout the
day. A combination of the above can have that type of impact.
go to David on the line.
Caller: Hi Rabbi Jacobson. I had a really fantastic experience at
your class on Wednesday night.
Jacobson: You’re talking about my Wednesday night class? Well I may
as well take the opportunity to mention that I give a class
every Wednesday night on the Upper West Side of Manhattan
(346 West 89th St., corner Riverside Dr.) at 8:00pm.
Everyone is welcome. David go on.
Caller: I had this dream. I was in the process of interviewing some
people about a new business direction, and I had this dream
about snakes. And it just happened that because I was studying
the Torah portion of the week, last week and this week (we
read about Joseph being thrown into a pit of snakes and scorpions
as one of the challenges that he survived)…
it made me say to myself that you can either look at the dream
normally—snakes scare the heck out of me (I would just run
away from anything related to snakes, whether it’s in a personality
or in people, or if it’s the real thing).
there may be a positive spin on this that, Boruch
Hashem, I could look at it in a positive way, that I could
survive, and I did, in the dream, not where I’d be afraid
of the snake, I realized I was not attacked or bitten by the
snakes. I walked through the corridor of snakes. And I said
that in this business venture, even though I may have trepidations
that these people may be the equivalent of a pit of snakes
and scorpions, that I can look at the positive aspects of
it and survive it. I can give it the attempt. What are your
Jacobson: I think that if that message really resonated for you and
it helped you, how can one argue with success? You actually
used the dream in a very positive way and that’s a good example.
we have Devorah on the line.
Caller: Can a dream show or hint to anything that will happen in the
future or even the next day? I had one such thing happen last
year. I had a dream that my sister came to me—she had gone
on a Shabbaton (for real)—and she came to me in the dream
and she said that she wants to come home for Shabbos, she
doesn’t want to go on the Shabbaton. Then the next day she
called (for real) and said that she had broken her arm. So
could it mean anything?
Jacobson: Thank you for your call. A dream is a glimpse into a person’s
deeper psyche and there’s no question that it can have messages
both in the past and in the future. The real question that
has to be asked is, “Why would G-d want you to know what was
going to happen ahead of time?” Usually, that’s not the way
it works, but however, if something worked out (as I said
to the previous caller), then obviously, how can anyone argue
with that type of foresight? So I thank you for the call.
questions are great, and as usual, when you talk about a topic
like this, it intrigues us all because as I mentioned, it’s
a glimpse into another world, another reality, and other realities
happen to be very interesting to us.
that’s perfectly fine if you behave and use that in a responsible
fashion, meaning, that you use it to become a growing, more
productive person, and not as a form of escapsim.
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go to Esther on the phone.
Caller: I really love your show. I think you’re great and what you’re
saying is tremendous. I wanted to share an experience I had.
I was suffering from anxiety, and I was having difficulty
sleeping for months and then one Shabbos, when I was reading
Nishmas, I came to the words, “Hashem never
slumbers, Hashem never sleeps,” and that night when I went
to sleep I thought, “Well, if Hashem is up, I don’t have to
worry anymore, I can go to sleep, because He’s up anyway and
He’s guarding me.”
since that experience, I don’t fear anymore because I know
G-d is awake and He’s taking care of me. There’s nothing to
worry about. It was really a helpful tool for me and I shared
this with a lot of people who were going through similar situations
and it really helped them. It’s also a very spiritual thing
to know that you’re not alone and that G-d is with you and
you have nothing to fear.
think insomnia could come from fear and anxiety, fears about
the future, worrying about the past—I just felt like I’m giving
it all up to G-d and everything’s okay and everything will
be okay. I just wanted to share this with you.
Jacobson: Thank you Esther. That’s a very important point and I second
it, of course, particularly that, as I said, an experience
that actually helps someone is a great way for all of us to
learn from, and that’s with a case of insomnia where you’re
not even dreaming.
when a person goes to sleep and is able to sleep and there
are dreams, it’s important to remember that, as Joseph said,
dreams do come from G-d and there are messages in them. However,
at the same time, G-d gives us the power and the ability to
deal with any challenge, and therefore dreams, as I discussed
in a previous show on superstition, have no control over our
lives. It is G-d who controls life, including the dreams we
have. They may be glimpses, they may be images, they may be
reminders, they may be wake-up calls, it may be some or all
of the above, however, they don’t control our lives.
important to know that and it’s critical to know that our
job is to have a relationship with G-d, to know that G-d is
with us. Even when there are challenging situations and a
dream may reflect something negative, we have to see it as
such, as a glimpse into another reality that is helping us
live more meaningful lives.
you Esther for the call.
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we’re here discussing dreams, and I thank the callers for
all their thoughts and questions.
dreams, the world of the exotic, the world of the mysterious,
is a world of paradox—and paradox is supreme in the world
of dreams—and in a way it’s a reminder to us all that life
is a paradox. As a matter of fact, the term “dream” is even
used as an analogy, as a metaphor, for the exile that we are
in; exile meaning that in a world like ours where there’s
a dichotomy between spirit and matter, between G-d and the
material universe, when each of us suffers from a dichotomy
between our own materialistic needs and our spiritual needs,
that this is considered as a state of dreams, because a dream
is that world where paradoxes are prevalent -- the story of
our lives. Which one of us can’t say that we don’t have a
paradox in our lives: one moment we’re inspired and really
motivated, and the next moment we procrastinate and go back
to our old habits?
are walking paradoxes, and many times the reality that we
are in is a form of a dream; so a dream is also a message
to us all, that even when we’re awake, we have to realize
that there are paradoxes that are all snowballing together,
and it’s important for us to wake up even when we’re awake.
the same time, as I was discussing this evening on the show,
dreams are a glimpse into another world.
week the show will be on the “Power of Prayer,” and I’m mentioning
it not just to tell you what we’re going to be discussing,
but also to welcome and invite your emails to firstname.lastname@example.org on the power of prayer,
stories that you may have about prayer, how it may have worked
in your life, or if you feel it didn’t work in your life.
You can call us as well at 1-800-363-2646 and we’ll address
the power of prayer and your comments next Sunday.
we have a few more minutes, on a personal note, I don’t dream
that often in a way that I can remember, but as all of us,
we have to look at dreams as a way of reminding us that reality
is much larger and much greater, its horizons are much broader
than what we have in our personal limited view and perspective,
in the myopic vision of our conscious lives.
may be one of the reasons why G-d created us in a way that
we sleep and that during sleep something happens: our mind
goes to another place. But beyond that, a dream has another
message for us, and that is perhaps to look at our lives in
a deeper way; that how we go to sleep, how we wake up from
sleep, is all a big mystery. Medicine, with all its advances,
has barely touched the surface of what sleep is, what dreams
are. What the Torah teaches us is that we have the ability
to put ourselves to sleep in a way that can transform us and
refine us, and in a very healing way, help us grow. And that
is, if a person goes to sleep, not with the television on,
not with a newspaper, but to read something spiritual, perhaps
even sing a song to yourself, to think of a story, to read
something that talks to your soul -- that is the best way
to put yourself to sleep.
sleep is an experience where your soul enters an entirely
different dimension, as the Midrash says, it goes back to
drink the waters of spirituality. By going to sleep the right
way, our dreams will definitely be sweeter, purer, and most
importantly, when we wake up, we go into life with a new type
may you all have pleasant dreams, and pleasant awakenings,
and I’ll see you all next Sunday, from 6-7pm, here on WEVD
1050am. This has been Simon Jacobson and Toward a Meaningful Life. Thank you very much.